Your local bi(polar) schizo fluffernutter.

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Cake day: December 30th, 2023

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  • As somebody in my mid twenties, I primarily date people in their 30s for this exact reason. I need somebody mature with their shit a little more figured out. Dating people my own age can be fun, but they don’t really have the maturity required to deal with somebody who’s gone through as much trauma and mental illness as I have.

    Case in point, my longest lasting relationship with somebody within 5 years of my age was 1 month long. My shortest lasting relationship with somebody older than me by more than that was 2 years.


  • This is me every single time somebody has been into me. To be fair though, the one time I didn’t over analyze and just went “Oh, I guess she likes me” it turned out she didn’t, she just really liked romance songs.
    So yeah, people are just gonna have to deal with having to be very forward about their intentions with me.



  • It is in fact really easy to tell the difference, you just hear more about the times people make the mistake because it’s not noteworthy when somebody goes “that guy’s just staring off into space” and is right. You also likely have a bigger emotional reaction, assuming you’re a guy, to a woman mistakenly thinking a guy is staring at her and being wrong than you do the knowledge that women get stared at a lot, so it makes the first seem like it’s happening more often.
    I’ve lived on both sides (trans) and can tell you I didn’t realize it was this common to get really obviously stared at by older men. And the older they are the more likely they are to do it, which is lucky, because I’m much less afraid of a 70 year old man doing anything to me than a 20-40 year old. I find the only thing I can do in that situation is to avoid looking them directly in the eyes, because they take that as a sign to approach.


  • This seems to be the attitude of most I encounter nowadays. I think every friend I have who I’ve asked about their sexuality tend to reply “I dunno, I just like what I like.”
    It seems the labels are slowly starting to lose their use, which to me is a good thing. It means we’re getting to the point where we don’t need it to feel normal anymore because it’s just normal by default. We’re not quite there yet, but it shows we’re moving in the right direction.
    Not that people can’t use labels if it makes them more comfortable, I’m just glad more people are starting not to need them because they’re already accepted.








  • Sombyr@lemmy.zipto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneIllusory Rule
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    9 months ago

    I’ve got a bit of a hangover, or maybe I’m still drunk, I dunno, but when I look at the center of the image and focus, all the lines go straight. I’m also on a phone, so maybe not enough is in my peripheral vision to completely fuck me up.

    EDIT: It was definitely the alcohol. I’m more sober now and I can’t do it anymore.




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    That’s kind of the point of the meme. They’re “identifying” a TERF by appearance alone the same way TERFs “identify” trans people by appearance alone. Neither is actually possible to do, and the only way a TERF can refute the meme is to point out their logic in believing you can judge people by appearance is flawed. The joke isn’t in the appearance bashing, the joke is in the that appearance bashing is clearly invalid and the more people who point that out, the easier it is to defend trans people when the same thing happens to them.
    I can’t guarantee that was OPs intent in posting the meme, but it was certainly the original point of the meme.

    Edit: Just realized I replied to the same person twice with the same thing. Probably didn’t need to do that. Sorry.


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    The meme is satirical. It’s making fun of TERFs who think they can always tell a trans woman from a cis woman from appearance alone because they think they all look a certain way. Hence the “We can always tell” at the end, which is a line commonly spoken by transphobes.
    The joke being that this is a ridiculously over the top example of somebody “identifying” a TERF by appearance alone, even though that’s not actually possible, just like it’s not possible for trans people either. A TERF cannot refute this meme without pointing out the flaw in their own logic, and that’s funny.


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    I wasn’t getting that vibe at all. Feeling sad because your wife is angry isn’t “wife bad.” It’s empathy. The meme just seems to be a joke about using unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with it causing a cycle of misery.
    In other words, my interpretation of the meme is more along the lines of acknowledging the self destructive cycles marriages often fall into via humor.



  • Sombyr@lemmy.ziptoMemes@lemmy.mlEdgar Allan Paw
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    Also, if they’re repeatedly getting up on areas you don’t want them to, it probably means they don’t have enough perches they are allowed up on in the area. Cat’s naturally like to perch to observe their territory. If they’re getting up on the kitchen table for instance, put perches or even a whole cat tree near it. Eventually they’ll learn to use the new perch instead of the table, sometimes even naturally if the perch is higher and more comfortable.


  • Not exactly a coherent collection of a specific thing, but I like to gather older video game consoles and retro tech to hook them all up in the most interesting way possible. I’ve currently got an SNES, N64, GameCube, and Sega Saturn hooked up to an old decent quality CRT security monitor over s-video. I plan to get an s-video matrix to hook up all the consoles at once and switch between them easier, and I also plan to at some point add a PS2, Xbox, and Dreamcast into the mix.

    I might also at some point try to find an old early 2000s or even late 90s computer and hook that up too. I don’t have a lot of space, so I might have to hook it up to the TV, but as long as it can play the games from my childhood without issue, I don’t care what wonky setup I need. Old games just aren’t as fun on an LCD.
    I do probably need to degauss the CRT though. When I first picked it up it looked fine, but I ran a metal fan a little too close to it for too long and now it’s got distorted geometry on that side.

    So I suppose I collect retro electronics. I don’t even collect games for the consoles I own. I just bought them for the fun of hooking them up.