On the internet, it is common to call a guy a misogynist, but what is the exact meaning of misogynist? Is it 1. A guy who hates women? Or 2. a guy who thinks men are superior. Or 3. A guy who believes in women should follow traditional norms like cooking.
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I’m pleasantly surprised.
Why are you surprised, seriously asking
The general consensus of people in this thread, plus my assessment of the comments that you have not deleted, is that you have been acting defensive and argumentative when you encounter posts that challenge you or disagree with you. Due to this, I figured you would not react well to me doubling down on telling you that your father’s opinion is wrong. I was pleasantly surprised that you responded in agreement.
It is just numerical bias, people see downvotes and assume a person must be wrong if you read my comments ignoring downvotes you will realize I am not misogynist or disagreeing with everyone
You seem to be engaging with me in good faith, so I will tell you that I disagree. In my opinion, this thread has not gone well for you because your defensiveness and attempt to control the narrative by deleting comments has made it seem like you are unwilling to accept the feedback that you made this post to ask for. Even your wording in your original post tries to control the outcome of the responses you get by narrowly interpreting misogyny.
You could have simply asked the question, absorbed the feedback, and moved on. I disagreed with some of the name calling that has been thrown your way, but that doesn’t excuse your behavior either.
Perhaps I’m wrong, but you’ve given me the impression that you are probably young (I’m guessing under 25) and rather ignorant when it comes to the inaccuracies of gender stereotypes. I honestly believe if you listened more and argued less, you would learn some valuable things and get less negative feedback from people online.
One thing is for sure—you’ve made quite a splash in your first 13 days with this Lemmy account, and it doesn’t seem to be in a good way. Maybe you should reflect on that rather than dodge responsibility for it by blaming downvote bias.
I deleted comments from my previous post and not this one, because people were bringing them for no reason and ignoring this post. I never invalidate anyone’s comments I just asked them about certain scenarios. But people can’t argue well, they try to push the narrative and if someone disagrees with them they downvote. I was defensive because people called me a misogynist for no reason. I never said anything against women.
I’ve already stated my opinion, and you are entitled to yours. All I can say is that I think you should give some thought to how your choices and words may have contributed to the reaction you got, regardless of whether or not you think it was justified.
This type of reaction doesn’t happen to most Lemmy users.