“Killing people is profit, son. Our shareholders demand it!”

I will wait for humans to decide to feed hungry children.

I’ve only watched about 15 mins of their content, and they came across to me as alt-right. Do you not want to mention the name because of that? I’m just wondering if my intuition was correct. Something, when watching videos and reading comments, triggered my nope response.

The gradual loss of the childful optimism and joy.

When I was a (hungry and impoverished) child, I was optimistic that hunger and poverty could be solved.

As an adult who teaches the study of humans, it is quite clear that the solutions are convenient enough, so will not be attempted.

Hungry children it is.

There is no careful use of language that can stop people from preferring hatred. Humans are machines for making the world worse, and they will continue to do so, and while they do it they will rationalise doing it, and while people get hurt (including themselves) they will blame the victims.

“It’s not fascism!” they complain as minorities are scapegoated and children die. Just get used to the fact that anything that is pointed entirely towards harming people for fun and profit is going to attract a range of derogatory words, and maybe think about how to stop humans from hurting humans instead.

I really don’t agree with your last sentence though. “Fixing” problems before they arise is exactly why we, particularly governments, already spend millions on the promotion of wellbeing and heathy lifestyles in order to prevent health issues in later life.

I’m pretty familiar with the differences in life expectancy statistics caused by health inequality. I’m not sure that you can truly promote wellbeing in a world where people are treated like they’re vastly less valuable.

Because being hypnotised prophylactically can easily come across as creepy and controlling, even if it’s well-meaning.

Let’s give an example that is both well-meaning and at least a little overbearing: “Hey, let’s hypnotise our kids to really want to try hard at school.”

Freedom means the freedom to be unhappy, make mistakes, and differ from others, as well as the freedom to be happy, succeed, and conform.

If you want prophylactic hypnosis, maybe try self-hypnosis? However, from everything I have read and tried myself in that field, it’s still used reactively. You realise your thoughts and behaviour cause a problem (e.g. over indulging in some vice), and you try to hypnotise yourself to not. Imagining potential problems and trying to fix them ahead of time could be based on poor assumptions, and lead to you trying to change your thoughts and behaviours in maladaptive ways. Fixing a problem before diagnosing it doesn’t make much sense to me.

So, a visible difference that some other people react to with prejudice is not like racism. Got it.

You ask: “Why assume they react to your VISIBLE ETHNIC DIFFERENCES in particular?”

1. The VISIBLE DIFFERENCES are visible.
2. People have made fun of me for having those VISIBLE DIFFERENCES before.
3. I can see facial expressions when people perceive THOSE VISIBLE DIFFERENCES, and notice features of judgemental reaction in their speech and behaviour after.

I’m sure you can comprehend why removing the controversial topic of ethnic differences [controversial because e.g. some people want to claim racism is does not happen any longer, or is not of any importance when it does because ‘it’s illegal to discriminate’] to replace it with another visible difference made it a suitable metaphor. I’m sure that you knew this, in fact, when you called it ‘dumb’.
Your annoyance is, therefore, possibly more at me saying that a woman is allowed to believe she is being targeted for racist reasons, and that such a woman should be listened to fairly. Feel free to clarify on that, if you wish. As for me, I logically believe that racism exists, as I have seen it. And that people can intuit when it is happening, as I have seen it. And that other people can disagree with it, because they profit from racism being ignored, as I have seen it.

It’s about as likely as someone starting and ending all of their writing with ellipses, with some of those ellipses being incomplete.

I have a birthmark that reads ‘VAGINA’ on my face.
Some people treat me differently from the moment I meet them.
I say, “I think that those people are reacting to my birthmark.”

You ask: “Why assume they react to your VAGINA birthmark in particular?”

1. The VAGINA birthmark is visible.
2. People have made fun of me for having it before.
3. I can see facial expressions when people perceive it, and notice features of judgemental reaction in their speech and behaviour after.

Now, apply this to OP’s wife. OP says this about her:

If I hadn’t seen the blatant discrimination she’s faced job hunting, I’d be more skeptical. She’s Filipino, but that’s “Mexican” to many. When I say blatant, I mean to say heads would roll if we had some of this on camera. She’s mostly unhurt by these things, just figures that’s the way of the world. But damn. One lady asked if she was Asian and was visibly appalled. Another said she would have to attend their church, and barely stopped short of asking her to renounce Catholicism. There’s much more I’m not remembering ATM.

I’m heavily autistic. I’ve figured this all out logically, as a person who has experience discrimination myself. It wasn’t easy, because I don’t grasp social cues natively. I thought I’d been doing something wrong for a long long time when people initially appraised me as ‘other’, but it turned out they were just being judgemental assholes. If you’re not heavily autistic, I believe it should be easier for you to figure all this out, right?

I don’t know if they’re all bastards

As it’s not likely that all people who work in HR have unmarried parents, it’s probably less literal language that labels them as belonging to a group of people who would harm you if it suited their interests.

All the HR people I’ve known who were not like that eventually left their job, because what they were asked to do went beyond their moral boundaries. Leaving HR to be the ones who were, indeed, those who didn’t feel such qualms.

No one else at this company requested such. Was he way out of line?

People who experience discrimination develop a sense for when someone is othering them. It’s not always correct, because it involves intuition, and you can misread people. But will still develop a sense for it.

Now, apply this to OP’s wife. OP says this about her:

If I hadn’t seen the blatant discrimination she’s faced job hunting, I’d be more skeptical. She’s Filipino, but that’s “Mexican” to many. When I say blatant, I mean to say heads would roll if we had some of this on camera. She’s mostly unhurt by these things, just figures that’s the way of the world. But damn. One lady asked if she was Asian and was visibly appalled. Another said she would have to attend their church, and barely stopped short of asking her to renounce Catholicism. There’s much more I’m not remembering ATM.

I initially read it as someone saying ‘Arab’ in a stereotypical Southern drawl, and I was confused.

I was a little bent when she told me he had asked her to remove her blur filter “to have a look at her working environment, make sure it’s not cluttered” (something along those lines).

Creepy.

All HR Are Bastards?

I temporarily trusted the two domains that started with librespeed and it worked.

What the other 17 are for, I can’t say.

Edit: looking at the server list, many of them match up with the serves you can select.

You have the reading comprehension of a snail.

All quotes from https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/press-release/2019/04/rape-and-sexual-violence-in-nordic-countries-consent-laws/

“Social stigma and a lack of trust in the justice system often mean that women and girls fail to report attacks, and those that do, are frequently failed by callous and prejudiced justice systems or outdated laws. One survivor told us she would never have reported her rape if she had known how she would have been be treated, and her story is typical in justice systems which are stacked against rape survivors.”

Whilst the situation facing survivors of rape is not uniform across the four Nordic countries, there are disturbing parallels among them whose criminal justice systems ignore, deny and tacitly condone sexual violence against women.

That’s rape culture.

I’m a child of rape. Please don’t talk to me about it if you wish to belittle the problem. Please don’t talk to any women about it, it’s far too possible they’re a rape survivor and haven’t told you, and they do not want to hear about your ignorance.

Just shut up in general about this issue if you do not understand. We don’t need your lack of belief that this is an issue.

As a rape survivor, for my mental health, I will block you if you engage with me on this. Just shut up: my mental health is more important than your questions. Do not even post a “you must be brave” or “I’m sorry to hear it” or “I didn’t mean it”. My trauma doesn’t exist for you to score virtue points. My trauma does not exist for you to defend your government and legal system, which you think are very good. I don’t care about that - that’s your belief, and you are welcome to it. Just don’t reply. Thank you.

Every year, around 50,000 women in Finland experience sexual violence, including rape. Most of those responsible for these crimes are never brought to justice. In 2017 only 209 convictions were secured for rape.

That’s rape culture.

Norwegian authorities have not taken the necessary measures to prevent rape and other forms of sexual violence or to address the consequences when such crimes occur. Prevailing and erroneous myths about rape make it hard for rape victims to report the crime to the police or to seek medical help. They also influence the way rape cases are handled by the criminal justice system.

That’s rape culture.

Harmful attitudes will not be suddenly changed by a change in the law. A recent study found that that almost one in 10 people in Sweden agreed that gender-based violence against women is often provoked by the victim herself. One survivor told Amnesty International: ”I even got that comment from my mother. She said ’I have always tried to teach you how to dress.’”

That’s rape culture.

Rape in Denmark is hugely under-reported and even when women do go to the police, the chances of prosecution or conviction are very slim. Of the 24,000 women found by a recent study to have experienced rape or attempted rape in 2017 alone, just 890 rapes were reported to the police. Of these, 535 resulted in prosecutions and only 94 in convictions.

That’s rape culture.

In 2018, Amnesty analysed rape legislation in 31 European countries, and only eight of them have laws that define sex without consent as rape.

That’s rape culture.

https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/press-release/2019/04/rape-and-sexual-violence-in-nordic-countries-consent-laws/

It’s hard to judge on a case-by-case basis when women are dissuaded from pursuing abusers in court. We simply don’t know, because we live in a rape culture, and it is a struggle to convict rapists.