I know what I’m doing with my evening now.

I think you’re undervaluing loneliness. Loneliness isn’t just missing some one. Loneliness means there’s no point in connecting with people because they will just die. Loneliness means that no one knows the depth of your condition because it isn’t available to them. It means that as they change and face new obstacles, you’ll be oblivious to all of that. You’ll not only see them die, you’ll see the vitality deep out of their pores as they age. All the while you’ll never know what that means personally or feel that slow slipping.

Also, super weird that your example is a breakup and people dying is something not worth registering.

Ranks 60 out 284 in Five Thirty-Eight’s rankings. Not bad.

Vampires need to ask permission to enter and physically can’t without permission. Can the ‘can’ be read in both senses here?

I care about my friends. I care about their goals, concerns, trials, joys, and more. I listen and I dig deeper. If I don’t care about what they did, I ask questions that reveal how it made them feel.

Now that’s a lot of emotional labor, but for a select few confidants, I am more than happy to that work. It bonds us and makes each other feel seen and connected.

I wish I had a friend who could just be there while I tried to get it set up. Honestly, I’d peroxide pizza, beer, and video games just so I don’t collapse in a mess of confusion and self doubt when something goes wrong. I don’t mind doing the work, but I don’t know if I have the patience to figure it all out.

Sounds like you had a wonderful patient who was grateful for you doing your craft. Do a compliment sandwich, but do it sincerely.

Complement Boundary Complement

“Oh my. I’m flattered. Thank you, but I’m not comfortable with that right now. You’ve been a wonderful patient and I enjoyed working with you too.”

This is just an example of the compliment sandwich structure and you should adjust the wording to serve you.

As for the phone number, just tell him that you were doing your job and seeing him better is all the reward you need. Again, adjust the wording for your truth.

How do you measure that for weight loss?

Same. My kid isn’t into it, thankfully, but he was the topic of the week a fews ago.

You’re using rationality to defend your behavior instead of connecting emotionally around a fundamentally emotional issue. This doesn’t mean that her behavior was justified either, but rationality will only get you so far in solving this problem. Arguably, there’s an intimate and emotional reason you’re together. If you’re both not engaging in protecting and growing that first, then you’ll end in a you vs her situation.

Yep. He tipped on top of the delivery charge and taxes. I it was 20% tip button that doesn’t isolate food.

Totally. There’s a funny story about this question going around the Princeton Advanced Studies center. Some would see the trick, but many would get stuck on trying to add up each portion of the journey.

And then they took the question to von Neumann. It begins to consider it and our come 15 km. They’re elated and say, you must have gotten the trick. “What trick? All I did was add up the geometric sum.” And a couple of insanely smart people left dumbfounded at how smart von Neumann was.

Of course, he could have been pulling their leg.

This one question breaks American brains.

2 cars approach each other, with 20 km between them. The speed of each car is 10 kmph. At 20 km apart from each, a fly starts traveling from one car towards another at 15 kmph. Once it reaches the other car, it turns back and starts towards the first car. It continues to do this until the cars meet/collide. How much distance does the fly cover in total?

/s

A formal de-escalation process seems best with nonviolent protestors. Why do you think they haven’t tried to talk to them already?

Sounds like an escalation.why not just talk to them?

I don’t think we should remove protestors. How would you remove protestors?

That just seems to be a synonym to shut down. How do suggest this be done exactly?

I don’t know what you mean by shut down exactly.

What does this even mean?

I think they’re talking about this. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scottish_English