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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • It’s not just you, it’s all of us. But what people really regret when they are facing the end is perhaps different from your fears as expressed here.

    Five wishes of the dying:

    1. “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
    2. “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”
    3. “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
    4. “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
    5. “I wish I had let myself be happier”

    From The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware












  • The house was horrible enough to start with; a characterless inter-war bungalow with fake timbering and fake leaded glass. The conversion is just differently horrible.

    For me it’s the destruction of the garden that warrants it being here. I know it’s the UK so the sun isn’t always available (edit: just seen the Zoopla link, it’s Bolton, so change “always” to “ever”) , but losing shade and shelter like that is a tragedy in any climate.


  • Every system that can be thought of (and has been suggested here) might sound great but when implemented at scale will no doubt prove to be open to abuse and require an army of mods to oversee. Otherwise every multi-million dollar social media company would have implemented it already.

    Upvotes and downvotes and cumulative scores kind of do the job well enough that that’s what we keep ending up with.

    That being said though, I would be interested in seeing a system where each downvote you make also counts against your own karma to discourage profligate use of the downvote to mean “I have a different opinion but can’t express it here”.