the_itsb (she/her)

I use Textra on Android and I can select which parts of a message to copy. I’m using the paid version and have for years, so I’m not sure whether that’s a standard feature or premium. The day Messages stopped letting me color-code each conversation was the day I quit using it; I can’t tell you how many times each person being a distinct color has saved my ass from texting the wrong stuff to the wrong person.

*thanolds

The subtle touches on this edit make it totally 👌 I honestly couldn’t tell you if it’s the matching garlic bulb on the safety seal and label, or the matching background bottles, or the gorgeous texture of the pesto rendered at just the right depth under the bottle, but, mmm 🤌 delicious, thank you

The dusting alone would be a full-time job.

I think it kinda looks like she’s describing a truly terrible hitchhiking experience, and the other lady just absolutely CANNOT.

It’s one misguided poster spamming the shit out of a bunch of instances, but this post itself seems to imply a more widespread problem.

What are you trying to achieve with this post? Would you like to spark conversation about this particular person’s crusade ? Or are you the umpteenth poster this month complaining about content referencing Reddit?

Honestly, the bitching about the bitching about Reddit is becoming pretty fucking tiresome, imho. Why are we talking about this? Why did you make this post? Why not just downvote that asshat’s content and move on? It doesn’t contribute, you allegedly don’t care, why post to complain about complaints?

Sure! Undiagnosed and unaddressed, I struggled my whole life with emotional instability (huge, overwhelming feelings, very reactive), chaos in my head (songs, phrases, conversations, scenarios, etc, all jumbled up on shuffle-repeat while I’m trying to steer a train of thought through), difficulty with relationships (chaotic brain makes conversations tangential & interrupt-y, makes it easy to forget people exist, etc), difficulty starting tasks and finishing projects, and I spent almost 40 years thinking that all of this was the result of various character flaws that someday I would finally be a good enough person to fix:

Someday I won’t be reactive and my brain will be quiet if I just meditate enough! (Meditation does help but definitely wasn’t enough.)

Someday people will like me better if I learn to be quiet during conversations! (I try, I really do. 😂🤦🤷 I literally make lists for and take notes during big conversations.)

Someday I will be successful and have an always-tidy house! (Routines and lists help but weren’t enough.)

Then my 14yo was really struggling in school and with friends and asked to be assessed for ADHD and was diagnosed, so I started reading up on it so I could parent better and in everything I was reading, I recognized myself as much as my kid. All of these problem areas are the result of my brain functioning differently from others’, and no amount of pounding their strategies into it is going to make it act like theirs. There are modified and alternate strategies that work better for neurodivergent brains.

Super half-ass early morning analogy - it’s like trying to drive a manual transmission vehicle when all you know is an automatic. I spent my entire life thinking that my car would start but just wouldn’t go anywhere, but actually I just needed to push the clutch down to get it into gear. 😂 Why didn’t anybody tell me I had a clutch?!?! They don’t have clutches, they don’t know any better. Now that I found my clutch, I can see that my car isn’t a jalopy piece of shit, it’s just different, and it is totally capable of driving!

Life-changing.

Please feel free to ask anything else! I’m happy to discuss, I want to make sure everybody knows to check their floor for a clutch before they give up on their car.

All these things you’re bringing up are very common ADHD symptoms! PTSD and extreme stress and fatigue can cause these things too, but if you’re not under particular pressure or recovering from trauma, or if it’s been like this as long as you can remember, you might want to look into ADHD.

Getting diagnosed was life-changing for me and has radically reshaped my conception of myself.

These are both very common ADHD symptoms. Not trying to diagnose you, just putting it out there as something you might want to consider researching further if these things cause you difficulties or problems.

Diagnosed combined type checking in - I also do this. I came to the comments to upvote whoever was here to tell OP that if this is a constant struggle, they might have ADHD.