Tbf, it took me several (rapid) iterations of the idea before my brain settled on a statement of maximum destruction. The reality is that I’d probably laugh and tell her to go fuck herself or just get confused and inform her that I wasn’t intending it to be a date and I’m really not attracted to her in that way; I just thought she might be a cool friend to have (if I’m talking to someone then there’s a decent chance we’re either friends or will be friends in the near future). I imagine both would probably damage her ego as well, but they’d be no where as devastating as my original comment.
In that vein, after I posted my original comment my brain offered me a slightly better one:
[Start with a pause at the beginning because it creates the illusion that her response was unexpected] “…oh, sorry, everyone said I should give you a chance; I just wanted to be nice. I’m really, really sorry. I know you’re a very sweet girl and you’ll find the right person who can see you for your strengths.”
Id just look with disgust and tell her straight up that nobody wants her not because of her look but because apparently she has an absolute trash personality.
I think I would apologize and then say that I was just trying to be nice by giving her a chance.
that’s the kind of comeback I’d think of after stewing on the rejection for a week
Tbf, it took me several (rapid) iterations of the idea before my brain settled on a statement of maximum destruction. The reality is that I’d probably laugh and tell her to go fuck herself or just get confused and inform her that I wasn’t intending it to be a date and I’m really not attracted to her in that way; I just thought she might be a cool friend to have (if I’m talking to someone then there’s a decent chance we’re either friends or will be friends in the near future). I imagine both would probably damage her ego as well, but they’d be no where as devastating as my original comment.
In that vein, after I posted my original comment my brain offered me a slightly better one:
[Start with a pause at the beginning because it creates the illusion that her response was unexpected] “…oh, sorry, everyone said I should give you a chance; I just wanted to be nice. I’m really, really sorry. I know you’re a very sweet girl and you’ll find the right person who can see you for your strengths.”
“I thought you might make up for it with your personality, looks like I was wrong”
Oof, the old one-two punch
Id just look with disgust and tell her straight up that nobody wants her not because of her look but because apparently she has an absolute trash personality.