• jeffw@lemmy.world
    2·
    10 months ago

    I had multiple relationships from online dating, probably almost half of the women I dated I met online. I met my wife online.

    The fact that you refer to men as men and women and girls probably says something about you though.

    Edit: and no, I’m not attractive

    • King@lemy.lolOP
      01·
      10 months ago

      I am not a native english speaker.

      I don’t know why people assume here that everyone here is American.

      • jeffw@lemmy.world
        1·
        10 months ago

        I’m not a native Spanish speaker, but I wouldn’t use hombre and chica or niña

        • King@lemy.lolOP
          01·
          10 months ago

          Then your Spanish is very good and I need to practice more English.

          What are you trying to prove here.

      • brandon@lemmy.world
        1·
        10 months ago

        Phrasing matters. Men are adults girls are children. That may not be your intention but try to be mindful in how you interact with others and you may have more success with relationships.

        • NoIWontPickaName@kbin.social
          02·
          10 months ago

          And yet no one has a problem with “What’s up boys?” or “Going to hang out with the girls.”

          Maybe you guys should just stop looking for things to get offended by.

          • brandon@lemmy.world
            1·
            10 months ago

            You’re free to refer to your friends however you like, that’s the business of you and your friends.

            Referring to “men” and subsequently “girls” in a general sense is very much a patriarchal view, implies women are inferior, and generally not respectful. I’m sure that’s not what was intended but it’s those sort of things that can rub people the wrong way, especially as a first impression.

  • carbrewr84@kbin.social
    1·
    10 months ago

    I met my late wife on Match.com in 2011 and we had a wonderful marriage. After she had passed away, I took some time to myself, but when I started dating again, I tried a variety of sites.

    Hinge, bumble, tinder, and match all got me dates, but I eventually met my now girlfriend on match. We’ve been together over a year now and marriage is in the future at some point, we’re just not in a rush.

    It’s worked for me twice now, so I think saying it’s impossible isn’t necessarily true. A lot depends on your location, interests, etc, but if you keep at it, you’re likely to find someone eventually.

    Perhaps post your online profiles, or portions of it, to some dating advice magazines and get some feedback. Without more information, we can’t know why it’s not working out for you in particular, but regardless best of luck out there!